The Answers
A simple way to know what to do in certain SITUATIONS
Pain
My thouhgts on what to do when in pain are this. Go to God and tell Him outloud what your pain is. The truth is the only one that rightly cares for us is God. The earth is messy and likely to disappointment us. God is sometimes blamed for this. I myself have thought God was the one hurting me, but it was myself and other people, but not God. God is managing our wrong and He knows what it feels like to have a hurting heart. Eventually God will hear your cries and work on helping, but we need to 1. Fear God and Keep his commandments, and two we need to obey and honor our parents.
Seek Help
I think it took me a few years to finally realize I needed to get help with what I was going through. I believe so much of us wants to handle and tackle problems on our own. We need to get rid of taking things on in our strentgh but really utilize Jesus through our pain and find him to give peace to our mind and heart. Listen to the Gospel when you feel down.Talk to a counselor, talk to a pastor, go to rehab, undo a stubborn and unwilling heart.
Change Your Bad Habits
stop looking at porn, stop drinking alcohol, stop arguing and fighting with others. Tell others and God you want to stop and listen to their advice. I have found when I stopped going to groups and stopped getting help and seeking help I would decline in character. Get back out there and don't give up on your goals, but realzie that there are habits that are keeping you from reaching them, including preventing God from healing your broken heart.